Interesting social sciences/Functions of the family
Choosing a spouse based on personality type.
English subtitles exist in this video. On the cover is Princess Diana. A female psychologist is a confused by vocation. A female technician is a mymra. The richest man is the right speaker.
Causes of the crisis of modern western family and Russian family. Government’s attempts to control fertility edit
Following functions of the family exist: edit
• Production of healthy posterity.
• Economic function. For example, family’s members ploughed the land or worked in craft workshop together.
• Function of transfer of status. For example, the King passed his throne to eldest son or to eldest brother in frames King’s dynasty. Noble passed own title and richness to his son.
• Socialization. For example, handicraftsman trained of own son to own profession.
• Social insurance. For example, the son is obliged to feed of own old and ailing parents. 
The causes of crisis of modern western family and Russian family. edit
William Fielding Ogborn had asserted that family has lost its functions during the past two hundred years. Other organizations began to perform above - mentioned functions of family today. For example, industrial corporation has became the main productive organization today rather than the family of craftsman or the family of the farmer which were the main production groups in the past. Gynecologists make in vitro fertilisation of an ovum of the woman without man already today. The educational institution, but not family, makes training and the educational institution gives the status in the form of the diploma about education today. The pension fund, jobcenter, labor union, nursing home and the insurance companies, but not family, perform function of social insurance in case of disability, a disease, unemployment or an old age of the person today. It become unprofitable to have many children because children have stopped to be by workers in a household. Some sociologists have stated the forecast: "Goodbye, family!", that is the family as social institute has to disappear in the near future because family has ceased to perform any functions in society. Crisis of traditional family is shown in decrease in birth rate, in growth of a share of incomplete families, in growth of the number of divorces, in growth of popularity of the alternate family forms.
Talcott Parsons refuted this viewpoint rightly and Talcott Parsons clarified that family has lost their functions only partially, but family has retained such functions as socialization of children at early age, preparing to fulfillment of the complex roles and emotional satisfaction. Only mother can bring up the child aged up before one year. The high level of incidence and mortality, aggressions and cruelty is observed among the children from orphanage deprived of maternal caress from infantile age. Only the father can teach of own son to manage by people and only the father can teach own son to submit to chiefs. In my observation in school, the boys who have grown up without father are uncontrollable often because mother can't cope with them at teenage age often. it is possible to bring up the son only on the example of the father. Lonely people can't remove stress in family and lonely people are forced to do it by means of consumption of alcohol and drugs.
Conclusion: the family is a great social invention and the family will not disappear until mankind disappears itself.
The degree of the success in love and the degree of sexuality for different personality types edit
Flirtation is kind of conflict too and the result of this conflict depends from degree of success in love for various personality types. One lover is the victim always, and another - the hunter in fatal love. To find this degree of the success in the love and the degree of sexuality for different personality types, I have conducted an empirical research among students of the Berezniki building technical school in 1999 in the form of anonymous opinion poll.
It was interviewed 50 people (45 girls and 5 young men) at the age of 17‐18 years, which were trained on the specialty of building accountant. Shares of personality types among respondents make: psychologists - 40%, technicians - 38%, speakers - 20%, theorists - 2% though technicians are most suitable for a profession of the building accountant, psychologists aren't suitable at all, theorists and speakers are suitable partly.
Five questions were asked to respondents:
1. Who are you in the love, “victim” or “hunter”?
2. How often were you “victim” or “hunter” in the love?
3. Who are you according to personality type?
4. What methods do you use in the love or what tricks did you fall for in love:
a). To feed hopes, to keep in limbo, without answering neither "yes", nor "no".
b). To kindle jealousy.
c), To deceive, to promise and not to carry out.
d), Something still.
5. What qualities are pleasant to you in darling person?
The following results of poll were received:
• 16% of respondents have named themselves by “victim”, 32% of respondents have named themselves by “hunters”, other respondents combat with variable success.
• All technicians use the method “a” only. The majorities of psychologists (74%) use the method “b”. The majorities of speakers (56%) use the method “a”, other speakers (34%) use method “b”.
• The most valued qualities of darling person are force (68%), beauty (68%), wealth (60%), sexuality (42%), successfulness (30%), mysterious (22%), mind (20%), humor (8%), kindness (8%), tenderness (4%). The most valued qualities of darling person at this age of respondents are force, beauty, sexuality, mystery, mind. The most valued qualities of darling person at this age of respondents have biological character and the most valued qualities of darling person at this age of respondents can quite make a basis of "Anima" or "Animus". Such qualities, as wealth and successfulness have social nature, it is possible that their value for respondents increases with increase of age of respondents.
• Speakers achieve the greatest success in this love-game, the ratio of victories and defeats of speakers reaches 3/2 or 1,5. Psychologists achieve quite good results, the ratio of victories and defeats of psychologists reaches 1/1 or 1. Technicians reaches not enough success in flirtation, the ratio of victories and defeats of technicians reaches 3/16 or 0,19. Theorists aren't able to play this game absolutely, the ratio of victories and defeats of theorists reaches 0/5.
• Psychologists win first place on degree of the sexuality, that is the average number of lovers or mistresses on one person, – 3,75. Speakers have the second place on degree of the sexuality, the average number of lovers or mistresses on one person – 2,6, Technicians have the third place on degree of the sexuality, the average number of lovers or mistresses on one person – 1,6.
It is possible to make the conclusion that potential “hunters” in flirtation are the speakers and psychologists, potential “victims” in flirtation are technicians and theorists. Speakers surpass other personality types in success in flirtation. Psychologists concede to speakers on success a little, but psychologists surpass of speakers in degree of the sexuality and the number of lovers or mistresses.
Recommendations concerning the choice of the spouse. How can you marry on the rich person? edit
It is necessary at the beginning of this paragraph to give the description of good and bad inclinations of each personality type during the playing of the role of spouse, then It is necessary to give acceptable and unacceptable combinations in the marriage between the different personality types, then It is necessary to give problems for each combination and reasons of divorce in marriage.
Psychologist has the following advantages in the family life:
- High sexuality.
- Ability to submit implicitly and to settle the conflicts from a position from below, ability to create a warm microclimate in family.
Psychologists have the following shortcomings:
- Inclination to unemployment and inclination to absence of own stable income.
- Such parasitic features of character as infantilism, laziness and aspiration to live at the expense of the spouse.
- Inclination to adulteries.
- Unability and unwillingness to perform works on cleaning and repair of apartment, household appliances, on cooking, on cultivation of a kitchen garden.
- Such useless for family hobby as poetry, art, magic, religion which leads of psychologist to the introduction in dangerous religious sects sometimes.
Women ‐ psychologists begin sexual life earlier than other personality types. Women ‐ psychologists enter into their first marriage earlier than other personality types and women ‐ psychologists are capable to give birth to many children. The women - psychologist agrees to play a role of the house slave often even, but it is desirable in "a gold cage", otherwise the woman - psychologist can betray of own husband and the woman - psychologist can find another husband easy. Islamic Sharia laws resolve polygyny, Sharia laws set the status of the wife on position of the slave and forbid her to work that quite suits many east women, the majority of whom are psychologists. Psychologist is the favourite child in family of own parents often because psychologist is able "to solicit" of parental love, it leads to emergence in character of the psychologist of such qualities as delicacy and capriciousness. If the psychologist was an unloved child in family as Joseph Stalin whom the alcoholic father beat often, if psychologist had the difficult childhood as Ivan the Terrible then it leads to emergence of tyrannical qualities of character. Several examples of criminal cases exist when psychologists ordered of murder of own parents or own husband.
It is possible to draw a conclusion that the man - psychologist is capable to fascinate on the short term after that the inevitable divorce follows. Man - psychologist is loser in the life often and man-psychologist is poorly suited to the role of husband, but man - psychologist is suited to the role of lover well. All “fateful” men were psychologists, love was their only craft in the life, which men - psychologists learned in perfection. These "fatal" abilities caused contempt, envy and hatred with side of other men. The ability of the woman - psychologist to be by a beloved wife and her inability to work and to earn money was an admissible circumstance always, but it is completely inadmissible for man - psychologist in role the husband. The woman - psychologist is the best candidate for a role of the mistress, but choice of woman - psychologist as the candidate on a role of the wife is connected with big risk of adulteries. The psychologist and the speaker are champions in quantity of unregistered cohabitations and civil marriages. The main purpose in the woman - psychologist's life is to find of rich husband. The woman - psychologist is able to place well networks and traps on rich men for performance of this purpose. Some men ‐ psychologists have a inclination toward the non - traditional sexual orientation.
Technician has the following advantages in the family life:
- Technician has continuous work and stable average by the size income.
- Ability and desire to be engaged in repair of apartment and household appliances, cooking, purity maintenance, cultivation of a kitchen garden.
- Aspiration to extreme economize and even aspiration to avarice at expenses.
- Lack of adulteries to the spouse that excludes jealousy from side of spouse.
- Reliability, aspiration at any cost to avoid a divorce and aspiration to save family from divorce.
Technician have the following shortcomings:
- Low sexuality which compels his spouse to adulteries.
- Big problems at the birth of children at woman - technicians.
- The inclination to carp to other family members for the least pretext that provokes the conflicts and that does creation of a warm microclimate in family as an impossible task.
- Lack of enterprise at the solution of problems that forces of other spouse to undertake a burden of the solution of problems.
It is possible to draw a conclusion that a problem to marry is the most complex problem in life of the technician. Technicians get married after other personality types because technicians are chosen in the last turn and by calculation in that case when the husband needs the good housewife and the wife without adulteries.
Speaker has the following advantages in the family life:
- The highest, but not stable income.
- Leadership abilities and high degree of enterprise, readiness to undertake a burden of the solution of financial problems and protection of family against external dangers.
Speaker has the following shortcomings:
- Inclination to alcoholism.
- Instability of career and instability of the income of the speaker which puts family in a difficult situation sometimes.
- Inclination to have a numerous and chaotic circle of acquaintances because of what there is no rest in the house when the house begins to remind the double - exit courtyard.
- A rather large number of adulteries at the man-speaker, but even more often the man-speaker will give a pretext for jealousy because the man-speaker likes to brag by own victories over women in love though the man-speaker doesn't bring the matter to a divorce with the lawful wife often. The man-speaker has no deep feelings; therefore the man-speaker betrays and throws of own mistresses easily for the sake of own wife or for the sake of following mistresses.
It is possible to draw a conclusion that marriage with the speaker frequently resembles the risky life on the volcano with the high probability to become the victim of the unpredictable cataclysms. Speaker is the innate adventurer and speaker has a inclination toward the crimes, gamblings, and bankruptcy for the sake of big money. The speaker doesn't like to study in educational institution. The speaker has no high diligence. Unlike the psychologist, the speaker isn't the fanatic of sexual relations. The man - speaker has highest success in love and man - speaker has a problem not how to marry but how to choose the only candidate on role of spouses from a large number of applicants. The woman - speaker has nontraditional sexual orientation sometimes
Theorist has the following advantages:
- Average and stable income.
- Long-term plan for life, inclination to accumulation of money for "rainy day". These qualities of character bring stability in family life, life of the theorist reminds the railroad on which theorist carries own family according to the schedule from one station to another station, from one purpose to another purpose (education, the apartment, career, wealth).
- The lack of inclination to alcoholism and the small number of friends, these qualities of character guarantee rest and an order in the house.
- Aspiration at any cost to provide high education level for itself and own children that protects from unemployment.
- Sufficient level of sexual abilities.
Theorist has the following shortcomings:
- Inability to work as chief or the businessman which exclude for him a possibility of high income.
- Dictatorial manners in family, inclination to dictate own will and to teach of close relatives.
It is possible to draw the conclusion that the theorist has the lowest success in the love and some problems at entering into marriage against the background sufficient high level of the need for the sex relations.
The inclinations of different personality types in the family life can be generalized in the following table.
|1. Degree of the development of sexual instinct.||Average.||Average.||Low.||High.|
|2. Ability to earn money.||Average.||High.||Average.||Low.|
|3. Degree of the development of enterprise in the solution of family problems.||Average.||High.||Low.||Low.|
|4. The degree of inclination toward the adulteries||Average.||High.||Low.||High.|
|5. Degree of inclination toward alcoholism.||Low.||High.||Average.||Average.|
|6. Inclination to have leader"s abilities.||Low.||High.||Low.||Low.|
|7. The degree of the success in the love.||Low.||High.||Low.||High.|
|8. Ability to perform homework and to repair the equipment||Average.||Average.||High.||Low.|
Ten combinations exist in the marriage between four personality types. The main principle at the choice of the spouse consists that it is necessary to choose identical or close personality type and it is impossible to choose opposite personality type. Marriage between identical personality types protects them from psychological incompatibility. Speaker and the theorist are personality types opposite each other. Technician and psychologist are personality types opposite each other. Thus, marriage between the speaker and the theorist isn't recommended. Marriage between technician and psychologist isn't recommended.
The marriage between the psychologist and the technician is the sufficiently frequent mistake, which, conducts to a divorce often because of two unsolvable contradictions:
- because of complete sexual incompatibility of spouses.
- because of contradiction with cleaning of apartment, because technician is tidy, and psychologist is dirty creature.
Classical example of a similar unsuccessful marriage is the marriage between the technician Charles, Prince of Wales and psychologist Diana, Princess of Wales, the reason for divorce became mutual adulteries of spouses. Diana dreamed to marry on rich muslim Dodi Fayed, as a result Diana and Dodi perished in the car wreck. After that, the prince Charles was married on speaker Camilla, Duchess of Cornwall.
Marriage between the speaker and the theorist occurs extremely seldom because of an insignificant share of theorists in population. Two unsolvable contradictions appear in this combination of personality types:
- Problem with numerous friends of speaker, this friends deprive to theorist of rest and this friends prevent to theorist to be engaged by scientific work.
- The problem with cash expenditures when the theorist seeks to save up money for "rainy day", and the speaker seeks to spend of money for momentary expenses.
Example of a similar combination is marriage between the theorist Anatoly Sobchak and the speaker Lyudmila Narusova. Anatoly Sobchak has died because of a heart attack on the background of sufferings concerning crash of political career, and their daughter speaker Ksenia Sobchak is Russian TV journalist, socialite, actress and candidate in the President of Russian Federation at presidential elections 2018.
The most successful version of marriage is a marriage between identical personality types though small problems are possible in this version too.
- The competition in a quantity of adulteries appears in the marriage between two psychologists frequently. The second problem of this combination of the personality types consists that any of two psychologists isn't able to earn money. An example of a similar marriage is the unsuccessful marriage between psychologist Lolita Milyavskaya and psychologist Aleksandr Tsekalo, this marriage has ended by divorce because of numerous mutual adulteries, after this Milyavskaya sought to marry for the millionaire. Other examples of similar marriages between two psychologists are the marriage between poets Nikolay Gumilyov and Anna Akhmatova, the marriage between singers Leonid Agutin and Anzhelika Varum, the marriage between singers Alla Pugacheva and Philipp Kirkorov, the marriage between singers Kristina Orbakaitė and Vladimir Presnyakov Jr. The marriage between Alla Pugacheva and Philipp Kirkorov has ended by divorce because of Alla Pugacheva which has found other husband - television presenter psychologist Maxim Galkin who has managed to construct "castle" in Moscow area.
- There is problem that two technicians carp and grumble on the relation to each other in marriage between two technicians often. For example it is possible to point to marriage between Emperor Nicholas II of Russia and Alexandra Feodorovna (Alix of Hesse), where the wife was a leader, and Nikolay 2 has lost a throne because of own weakness, then Bolsheviks executed all imperial family, including children.
- The fight for the leadership appears in the marriage between two speakers unavoidably, where "competition" begins even in quantity of the earned money or in quantity of the drunk alcoholic drinks sometimes. For example, the successful marriage between two speakers is the marriage between Mikhail Gorbachev and Raisa Gorbacheva. The wife was the leader in this family, this circumstance irritated of the simple people very much, because historical experience demonstrates that if the ruler of the country isn't able to be by leader in own family, then he risks to lose the power in the country because of weakness of the leadership abilities sooner or later as Emperor Nicholas II of Russia. The president of the USSR Mikhail Gorbachev lost the power too.
- Any case of marriage of two theorists isn't known to me, because the probability to meet a similar combination is very small.
Close personality types supplement mutually each other therefore similar marriages are quite admissible and very widespread.
- The speaker is unconditional leader in the marriage between the speaker and the psychologist, the load of the solution of all problems lies down on shoulders of the speacker. This combination is very widespread among the representatives of any elite, because woman-psychologists set networks and traps on rich grooms - speakers purposefully and woman-psychologists are capable to take away of the husband oligarch even from the lawful wife. Therefore psychologist is most dangerous rival for any wife. Reasons for a divorce in the case of a similar combination are alcoholism and criminal record of speaker, adulteries and the absence of own incomes at psychologist. It is possible to name the marriage between speaker Peter the Great and psychologist Catherine I of Russia (born as Marta Samuilovna Skavronskaya) as an example of a similar successful marriage. Catherine I of Russia had bad reputation, because Catherine I of Russia had low origin from the serfs and Catherine I of Russia “walked along the hands” before the marriage with the Russian emperor, Catherine I of Russia was by mistress of speaker Alexander Danilovich Menshikov and still several men. Catherine I of Russia was on the position of concubine for a long time before the marriage with the Peter the Great, their children (Anna and Elizabeth of Russia) was born until a legal marriage therefore Anna and Elizabeth of Russia were considered as illegitimate and Anna and Elizabeth of Russia had no right for a throne. Therefore Elizabeth of Russia was forced to take a throne by means of a palace revolution. Other example is a marriage of the U.S. President speaker Bill Clinton and the psychologist Hillary Clinton where Hillary was an undisputed leader, Hillary earned much more than the husband-president and Hillary beat of Bill because of adultery with the psychologist Monica Lewinsky because of whom the husband has nearly received an impeachment. But the psychologist Hillary Clinton has naturally lost to the speaker Donald Trump on elections of 2016 because psychologists naturally lose to speakers on free elections. Other examples is marriage between the speaker Brad Pitt and the psychologist Angelina Jolie.
- Speaker becomes by the leader most often in marriage between the speaker and the technician after some period of fight.
- Following small problems exist in the marriage between the technician and the theorist: a certain difference into the degree sexuality and the large difference in the level of intellect (IQ), therefore theorist with difficulty, but sometimes is forced to find of mistress, theorist begins to laugh above the mental limitedness of technician. But these two personality types have many common interests: both personality types are unsociable, both personality types appreciate rest in family, both personality types have average and stable income, both personality types are able to spend money economically, both personality types are hardworking and diligent in work.
- Small problems exist in the marriage between the theorist and the psychologist: a certain difference into the degree sexuality and the absence of incomes at psychologist.
Polygyny and polyandry are the more complex combinations of the personality types in the marriage. These combinations occur extremely seldom and these combinations are forbidden under the law in the West and Russia today, when three and more people enter into the marriage.
The following examples of polygyny are known from the literature:
- The husband can have four wives in Islam under laws of Sharia.
- The speaker Vladimir Lenin had at the same time actually two wives – the technician Nadezhda Krupskaya and the psychologist Inessa Armand. To become the mistress of Vladimir Lenin, Inessa Armand was forced to throw of five children who were brought up by her first husband independently. Nadezhda Krupskaya was an ugly woman and the sick person, she couldn't have children, but she was by good assistant for Vladimir Lenin in revolutionary affairs. Nadezhda Krupskaya was by personal secretary who corresponded with party fellows. Vladimir Lenin provided by money of own family before an October revolution completely. It were the loot money and money of the German intelligence. Psychologist Joseph Stalin and Kamo (Ter - Petrosian) sent of loot money to Vladimir Lenin to Paris where Lenin's family rented two - room apartment and Lenin's family even employed of servant. Joseph Stalin was robber of banks and a racketeer in Caucasus. Joseph Stalin had six criminal records and five escapes from exile in Siberia. Kamo (Ter - Petrosian) plundered of banks and Kamo (Ter - Petrosian) has avoided of death penalty by miracle thanks to the fact that Kamo (Ter - Petrosian) pretended by crazy man. Vladimir Lenin have received money from the German intelligence during World War I for the organization of disorders in the Russian army in 1917.
It is possible to give the following curious examples to the polyandry:
- Maria Alexandrovna Ulyanova had simultaneously actually two husbands ‐ technician Ilya Nikolayevich Ulyanov and psychologist Ivan Sidorovich Pokrovsky, therefore numerous children for example Vladimir Lenin did not have precise information about that, who their biological father. There is well‐known fact that Vladimir Lenin indicated mistakenly upon admission into the university his patronymic “Ivanovich”, instead of “Ilyich”. Maria Alexandrovna Ulyanova has married late and she was the supporter of free love and she worked never like many psychologists. The elder brother of Vladimir Lenin Alexander prepared attempt to assassinate of Alexander III of Russia and Alexander Ulyanov was hung up by a court decision because of which opportunities for legal career have disappeared at Vladimir Lenin, and Vladimir Lenin has decided to arrange seizure of power. Function of Ilya Ulyanov consisted in providing of big family by money, Ilya Ulyanov held position of the inspector of national schools of the Simbirsk province. Ivan Pokrovsky was considered formally as the family doctor.
- Psychologist Lilya Brik had two husbands simultaneously actually ‐ speaker Vladimir Mayakovsky and psychologist Osip Brik. Poet Vladimir Mayakovsky was as the source of money in this family and Vladimir Mayakovsky have committed suicide because of sufferings concerning the nonconventional sexual relations in his family.
It is possible to draw the following conclusions. It isn't necessary to condemn various the personality types for their inclinations in family life. Each the personality type lives and survives as it is able. To marry on rich man, it is necessary to choose in husbands of the "correct" speaker who doesn't have bad inclinations. In order not to get a prostitute wife, you do not need to marry on woman - psychologist. In order not to get a frigid wife, you do not need to marry on woman technician.
Citations and references edit
- Neil Smelser. Sociology. New-Jersey Prentice Hall 1988. Chapter 13. Family.
- Neil Smelser. Sociology. New-Jersey Prentice Hall 1988. Chapter 13. Family.
- Neil Smelser. Sociology. New-Jersey Prentice Hall 1988. Chapter 13. Family.