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This might seem as an extremely complex way of solving the problem of negative thoughts in the chatroom, when encountering hurtful conversations.
This section was made from my experiences of people going to chat, getting disappointed and leaving, and telling in public they left because of the chat. This chapter will analyze in detail (extreme detail) of a solution or solutions regarding the various problems that occur, and the many possibilities of their solution.
Further highly abstract(warning) information about this sectionEdit
Various things in this chapter is also intended to be used as a "reference point". This might mean that you could ask the person if they agree to some guidelines that are presented in various sections. These will be shown later in a specific "Guidelines" section, which will have the use of letting a person read them and think if they agree.
Chatting in generalEdit
Chatting is when you communicate with other people by sending them text messages, and they do what you do too.
Problems and solutionsEdit
This section is general information on what to do in various situations.
Bullying in the chatroomEdit
This is when a person sends you an abusive message to the chatroom.
solution (abusing them too)Edit
- You reply in the chatroom also by sending them an insulting message back yourself.
Good things that come out of this actionEdit
- You might feel better by insulting the other person in return.
- The public might know you did not like the insulting message.
Bad things that come out of this actionEdit
- Your wasting time on chatting with the person that insulted you.
solution (telling once)Edit
- You reply to them in a private message: "I'm sorry, I can't concentrate on what you say today. I must filter your messages for the good of both of us to prevent misunderstanding, and I'm looking forward to talk to you another day"
sidenote: Good and Bad sections not further analyzed yet
solution (sending some messages)Edit
You send them a private message "I found your message abusive type_their_nickname_here. Was your intention to type an abusive message?"
Their possible responsesEdit
They say "yes"Edit
Then you won't send them a message again, regardless of what they do, and you might technically ignore them.
They say "no"Edit
- You send them a message back "ok".
- If you come to this section a second time where they have said "no" then do this:
- Send the person in a private message: "I'm sorry. I think we are misinterpreting each other today. I can't concentrate regarding what you say to me, so I'll have to filter out your messages for the good of both of us"
They don't send you a "yes" or "no" messageEdit
- Then you send them in a private message: "I'm sorry. I think we are misinterpreting each other today. I can't concentrate regarding what you say to me, so I'll have to filter out your messages for the good of both of us"
sidenote: Now you might not mean this, but that is the message according to this solution, well it can't be perfect but I'm sure it will help to a degree.
note: Whether these responses are sent in the chatroom or privately is not covered in this section, but only responses are covered.
The purpose of this section is to type a certain thing for various occasions that might happen. For example, each time you feel abused by a message you might type something standard like "I have not abused you, and even you by trying to abuse me, I will not fall for your wish to reply back and start a flame war. I can keep my self control instead of wasting time by doing such a thing". Now on to the practical part.
Disturbed response named: "short disturbed response"Edit
"Hi. I'm sorry I can't reply any more to your messages."
This section was originally made in the case that you were having a bad mood in the chatroom. Further on this section was made as an idea of showing a certain set of rules to a person. Asking if a certain person agrees to them and if not certain actions might be taken by you. note: this is not just for others. You might also state publicly that you follow a certain guideline, because of your current mood. This can help others understand how you feel, or close to how you feel...and knowing that you tell about it publicly might make you feel more calm.
An example: This might confuse, but you might state for example just when you enter the chatroom that you are not in great mood, and you would like to chat calmly, or only through private chat messages.
Guidelines for personal useEdit
These are guidelines that people might not need to view, and might just be aware of that you follow certain guidelines that regulate your behaviour. (yes, you can regulate yourself by these)
guideline1 communicating in private with friendsEdit
The following described under "content:..." is information about this specific guideline
content: I'm in no good mood, and I will not take part in the discussion in the chatroom, but only send messages to people I already know, and if I find none, then as of this rule I will still not type any message in the chatroom.
Guidelines for public useEdit
I will also use a new term called "ruleset", although I can't describe it yet since my thoughts are very abstract. The purpose of the section is to type about guidelines that other people will view including you.
ruleset1 confusion prevention (complex)Edit
First the reason for this ruleset, is that it's expected you are confused while at the chatroom. Since you are confused, you might wish to avoid messages that confuse you, and you might want a balance where all messages that confuse you are filtered out. That's what this ruleset is about.
- Will not reply to things that confuse you
- Example: Someone says "oh yeah" and you can not or do not wish to get involved in the discussion that gave this response from a certain person. So you will ignore that message.
- If opinions confuse you, or make you ponder which you don't want to do according to this ruleset, you might filter it out, but only after you've noted 3 confusing things from a certain person.
- example: person A says at 3 different times "lalala hoho" and "they should not be allowed to do that" and "yehhh, oops", and let's say that these 3 message confused you , then you filter the nickname out.